Change of Heart

I used to find interracial dating repulsive. Don’t take me wrong, I have nothing against other races. The reason why I thought so is because I have heard of some women who would go online to find a possible mate from a different country. Most of the time, their desire is rooted from money. Somehow, there is the stigma that love for another person is no longer the driving force and is being replaced by one’s love for money.

With this in mind, I feel that the essence of a relationship is being violated. I believe that in choosing your future partner, a stage of courtship should be undergone. This period would give the two people in a relationship adequate time to get to know each other more and learn about each other’s character. It is only then when you would know for certain whether the two of you would suit each other.

So, each time my friend would tell me about her boyfriend whom she met online I become irritated of her. I could not imagine marrying someone whom I have not actually seen in person or someone who is not tangible to me. Questions about whether would last came to my mind. I forecasted that once they will be together problems would arise especially since they came from diverse backgrounds. Cultural differences will undeniably exist between them. There is the dilemma of language barriers and a varied expression of traditions. Beliefs and convictions will definitely hinder them from making things work.

Despite of my opinion on the matter of her dating style, I did not contradict her. Who knows it might really work for her. So, I kept my perceptions to myself because I respect her. So, my friend’s relationship with her interracial boyfriend went on and the day finally came when they got married. I was glad to see her happy.

At the time she left to live with her husband in his country, I feared for her. What if they would realize that their cultural differences is insurmountable for them and end up getting a divorce? That feeling of apprehension lingered for a long time. Each time she would call me long distance, I would really ask her how things are. She would always tell me things are just great. My fear never came to be.

Now, my friend has been married to her interracial husband for fifteen years and everything is working well for them. That is when I realized that true love knows no boundaries rather it goes beyond one’s culture and traditions. It learns to accept the person in totality.

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